Half of life’s troubles are caused by saying "yes" too quickly and saying "no" too slowly. American humorist Billing proposed
I often hear people say: The most feared thing in life is to reject others. This may be the general psychology of most people.
Indeed, many of us, including some masters in the world, are very mind-blowing in how to reject others. We are often out of face-saving and fear of offending others. When others make some requests or ask for help, even if we are busy or have insufficient energy, we often have to do our best. The word "no" means no Export.
Because of this, I often fall into the dilemma of "have to" or "be forced to be helpless", and more importantly, disrupt my own plans and arrangements, making my work and life passive. If things go on like this, we will not be able to enjoy the true happiness of giving and giving. Normal interpersonal communication and interaction will become a burden, so why is there happiness at all?
A little insight --- Comedy master Chaplin once said this sentence: Learn to say "no"! That way, your life will be much better.
Think about it carefully. How many setbacks and dissatisfactions encountered in life and work are caused by the fact that we rashly agreed to other people's requests due to our emotions, and then found that we were unable to catch them?
The American writer Billin tells us through this sentence: learn to choose the right way to express rejection at the right time, our life will be much easier.
So, how can I let myself say that important "no" easily?
First of all, give yourself more positive hints, such as "I have the right to reject others". In interpersonal communication, everyone can express their rights and emotions in a way that is acceptable to the society. Defending one's own reasonable demands and caress cannot be equated.
Secondly, when rejecting others, you must be skillful and express your wishes euphemistically. Explain to the other party his difficulties or limitations; give a suitable suggestion according to the other party's situation, even if he does not directly help, it solves the problem for him.
The art of rejection is like the flavored wine in life. If you deliberately cultivate, you can brew a colorful life.
Comments:
1. Without the right to veto, the right to speak is easily deprived.
2. If you don't give in to things that shouldn't, it is easier for others to give you concessions.
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